Introduction:
This is not a personality quiz. There are no right or wrong answers here. This questionnaire is designed to help you uncover something deeper: the version of yourself that exists beneath the roles, masks, and expectations you project every day.
Take your time. Be honest with yourself. Some questions may be uncomfortable — that’s a sign you’re on the right track. At the end, your score will reveal insights about where you are in your journey of self-discovery.
Section 1: Yes/No Questions (1-2 points each)
Do you ever feel like you’re a different person depending on who you’re with? ☐ Yes (1 point) ☐ No (2 points)
Have you ever avoided spending time alone because you were uncomfortable with your own thoughts? ☐ Yes (1 point) ☐ No (2 points)
Do you feel that people in your life only know a version of you, rather than the whole truth? ☐ Yes (1 point) ☐ No (2 points)
Section 2: Multiple-Choice Questions (1-4 points each)
When was the last time you sat in silence, without distractions (no phone, no music, no conversations), and reflected on your life? ☐ Within the past week (4 points) ☐ Within the past month (3 points) ☐ More than six months ago (2 points) ☐ I don’t remember (1 point)
Optional: What did you learn from that moment, if anything? If you haven’t taken a moment to sit in silence and reflect, what has stopped you?
Which of the following best describes how you make decisions in your life? ☐ I make decisions based on what I truly want, regardless of how others feel. (4 points) ☐ I consider my own needs, but I also prioritize how it will impact others. (3 points) ☐ I tend to make decisions based on what I think others expect of me. (2 points) ☐ I avoid making decisions altogether because I fear the consequences. (1 point)
Optional: Can you think of a time when you compromised your true desires to meet someone else’s expectations?
How often do you feel the need to put on a "mask" or perform a certain role in social settings? ☐ Rarely — I feel comfortable being my authentic self. (4 points) ☐ Sometimes — I adjust depending on the situation. (3 points) ☐ Often — I feel like I’m always playing a role. (2 points) ☐ Always — I don’t even know what my "authentic self" would look like anymore. (1 point)
Optional: What role or mask do you find yourself putting on the most? Why do you think that is?
When someone compliments you, what is your immediate reaction? ☐ I feel genuinely grateful and accept the compliment. (4 points) ☐ I dismiss it or feel uncomfortable accepting it. (3 points) ☐ I downplay my accomplishments because I don’t want to seem arrogant. (2 points) ☐ I feel like they don’t know the real me, so the compliment doesn’t feel valid. (1 point)
Optional: Why do you think you respond this way?
If you were to lose your job, your titles, or your social media following, would you still know who you are? ☐ Yes, I would still feel confident in my identity. (4 points) ☐ I would struggle, but I think I’d figure it out. (3 points) ☐ No, I think I would feel lost without those roles. (2 points) ☐ I’m not sure — I’ve never thought about it. (1 point)
Optional: How much of your identity is tied to what you do rather than who you are?
Section 3: Open-Ended Questions (Reflection Only)
Describe a moment when you felt completely yourself — no masks, no filters, no fear of judgment. What were you doing? Who were you with? How did it feel?
If you stripped away every title, every relationship, and every expectation placed on you by others, what would be left? Who are you, at your core?
Scoring Guide:
Total Points:
Add up your points from Sections 1 and 2.
Results:
8-15 points: "You're Wearing a Mask" You may be living a version of yourself that feels safe but isn’t entirely authentic. There’s likely a gap between who you project to the world and who you really are. Start by spending more time in solitude and reflecting on the choices you make for yourself versus the ones you make for others.
16-23 points: "You're on the Journey, But There's Work to Do" You’ve begun the process of self-discovery, but there’s more to uncover. You may still find yourself adjusting to meet the expectations of others or avoiding uncomfortable truths. Keep going — you’re getting closer to meeting your true self.
24-30 points: "You're Living Authentically (or Close to It)" You have a strong sense of who you are, and you’re comfortable with your true self. That said, the journey of self-discovery never really ends. Continue reflecting and challenging yourself to deepen your understanding of who you are beyond roles, titles, and expectations.
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